I’m sure there isn’t an After Forty Mom out there that hasn’t held her new baby and then thought about the consequences of having a baby later in life. By this I mean the idea that perhaps this little one may not have a sibling or in my case, with two much older boys in their late teens, a sibling of close age. Continue reading
Welcome to the Carnival of Weaning: Weaning – Your Stories
This post was written for inclusion in the Carnival of Weaning hosted by Code Name: Mama and Aha! Parenting. Our participants have shared stories, tips, and struggles about the end of the breastfeeding relationship.
Hi. I’m Amanda and my story starts when I found myself pregnant at 43. I had two wonderful boys in my 20’s and thought my life was complete. Life, and parenting, is funny that way…just when you think you’ve learned all your life lessons in one area you are blessed with more. I remember the moment vividly when I said to myself, “breastfeeding has just got to work for you this time Amanda”. You see, when I had my boys there was little support for my efforts and when I experienced cracked nipples and subsequent low milk supply the formula samples from the hospital got the better of me. NOT THIS TIME I told myself. I had actually added “breastfeeding” to my bucket list! Continue reading
Today I did a guest blog for Flower Power Mom sharing my experiences being pregnant at 42 and the challenges I had with the medical community not fully understanding the needs of older moms.
This dove-tailed nicely with the recent launch of an advocacy project that Flower Power Mom launched for Mother’s Day, “INFORMED CHOICES FOR LATER MOTHERS: What Women Should Know About Fertility, Birth And Parenting After 40.”
Full post below, would love to hear your personal experiences being pregnant and having a baby after forty.
Over Forty Moms Need to Feel the Love (and Support)
By Amanda Weber, Founder of After Forty Mom inspired by the birth of her daughter at 43.
I recall vividly my doctor saying, “Amanda, at 42 your chances of conceiving naturally are small, maybe 5 percent [per month]. And then there is the increased risk of genetic abnormalities. But, you are very healthy.” Honestly, I’m the kind of person who just filtered out the first two comments and focused on the positive part . Continue reading
This isn’t my first Mother’s Day, in fact it is my 19th. But every year on this day I try to take a few minutes and have gratitude for all I have been blessed with in the mothering department.
I have a wonderful mom. She loves all her children (3 of birthed by her and one adopted) and would do anything for us. That kind of unspoken commitment allows me to wake up every day and feel loved, accepted and secure. Thanks Mom. I love you.
I have three wonderful children of my own; they are 19, 17 and 17 months. All are healthy and happy and bring me so much joy every day. I can’t imagine life without any one of them. Thanks kidos. I love you all to the stars and back. Continue reading
Caught this article on Modern Weight Loss Tips and wanted to share with my after forty moms and moms to be. Basically, they recommend that women over forty who are considering becoming pregnant give themselves the best advantage if they ensure their body mass index is where it should be.
For anyone who isn’t sure what body mass index (or BMI for short) is, it measures your weight relative to your height. There are quite a few calculators available online if you search BMI or you can have it more accurately calculated by at your local gym or health and wellness center. I know my naturopath does it for one.
Here is the full article:
Pregnancy after 40 can be less risky if women reduce their BMI
Pregnancy after 40 is a risky endeavor for most women, but a new study indicates that reducing body mass index before pregnancy can reduce chances of cesarean delivery, gestational diabetes, gestational hypertension/preeclampsia, and preterm delivery.
In the United States more than 13% of pregnant women are 35 and older, and nearly 3% are age 40 and older. However, this data undermines the impact of obesity on increasing risky pregnancies in otherwise healthy women.
The study evaluated 53,480 women who were voluntarily enrolled in a pregnancy risk assessment and education program operated by Alere Health within a five years span.
Researchers excluded women who reported heart disease, chronic hypertension, pre-gestational diabetes, tobacco use, and conception with assistive reproductive technology.
Data was grouped by maternal age — 20 to 29 years or 40 and older — and obesity. Those with a body mass index of 30 kg/m2 or higher were defined as obese; those with lower BMIs were defined as normal.
Women over 40 years of age were shown to have delivered at a significantly lower gestational age, had a greater incidence of cesarean delivery, gestational diabetes, preterm birth, and both low and very-low birth weight infants, compared with controls aged 20 to 29 years.
The study indicated that both advanced maternal age and obesity influence pregnancy outcomes. Pregnancy at 40 years and older can be less risky if women modify their diets and reduce their body mass index to healthier levels, prior to conception.
It’s important to note that here were limitations to the study: While the population included both Medicaid and commercially insured women from across the United States, it cannot be assured if the same results would be observed in the general population or for those with later prenatal care. It is also important to stress that despite increased weight, the women in the study were relatively healthy.
Have you ever had one of those days or weeks where the universe just seems to be sending you message upon message about something that you know you should be doing but that you just don’t feel you have the time or energy to embark on? I’m not really talking about yard work here, although my lawn does need a spring raking and it would be an ideal time to get on top of those weeds.
I’m referring to those bigger life messages like “what do I really want to achieve before I turn 50”? Or “once my kids grow up and I look in the mirror – will I know who I am”? Yes…these monster-sized questions. Continue reading
Sharing a thought-provoking post here from a great blog for after forty moms, InSeason Mom. If you are pregnant over forty or have been, did you feel there was so much “fear-factor” that you were deprived of your right to enjoy this magical time in your life?
As Angel La Liberte puts it, “I’ll never forget the day I signed on the dotted line at the age of 44, consenting to an amniocentesis. I realized then (and I am equally assured now) that the medical establishment does not comprehend the degree of angst—all too often verging on bald, raging fear—that older mothers feel about their high-risk pregnancies. In fact, they do much stir the unwelcome sediment of our darkest nightmares so that, despite our “advanced age”, pregnancy can feel like traversing a decision-making minefield while still as wet-behind-the-ears as any other novice.”
Today I am excited to be sharing advise from Dr. Robin Walsh, a Naturopathic Doctor and Nutritionist who has inspired thousands of people (including me!) to optimize their health through lifestyle changes.
Dr. Robin was my Naturopath when I was trying to conceive my daughter at 42 and continues to take care of me, and my family, in the most natural way possible. She is also Mom to a beautiful little girl who is nearly 2.
I asked Dr. Robin, who interestingly specializes in optimizing fertility, to share with my After Forty Moms what she felt were the top five foods that should be part of our diets when we are pregnant in this “slightly” later stage of life.
For me a critical part of successfully changing my eating habits is having guidance on how to integrate them into my day in the easiest way possible. I think you’ll appreciate how Dr. Robin has attempted to bridge this gap and leave no room for excuses! Enjoy! Continue reading
You’ve probably heard of the many health benefits of eating Kale, including their antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties and that they contain vitamins A (essential to our reproductive organs),C and K but if you are like me you’ve bought a bunch with good intentions and watched it wilt in your vegetable drawer.
Well, I have finally found an easy and healthy recipe for kale that you must try. I’ve tested this one on my husband, my two teenage boys (including girlfriends) and my daughter who is just 16 months and everyone thinks they are surprisingly thumbs up!
For moms who are pregnant after forty these are especially good for you as a source of Folic Acid for healthy neural tube development in your little one and their high fiber content will help to promote bowel health during pregnancy. Continue reading
Why Women Who Give Birth After 45 Live Longer
(Mother Nature Network, April 11, 2012, By Melissa Breyer)
A new study finds that the mortality rate for women with no children is 4.9 per 1,000, yet notably dips to 1.6 among women who give birth after the age of 45.
Potentially good news for any woman who has received a “Dangers of Childbirth After 35” article snipped from the newspaper and sent in the mail from her grandchild-starved mother: Israeli scientists have found that a number of women who give birth after 45 live longer than other women. Continue reading